Mindful Parenting – Putting the Focus on Fun

Posted By KidGearUK on Friday, 26 February, 2016 | 9 comments



 

Life with children can be a monotonous slog. When they’re babies there’s the day in, day out round of nappy changes, snotty noses, playgroups and poo, lots of poo. As they get older, children then have an endless list of homework, after school clubs, weekend activities and hobbies that they want and need their parents to take part in. A never-ending list of things to be done, jobs parents need to do, and all round hard work. It’s not easy being a parent.

 

Now don’t get me wrong, I love my kids and wouldn’t change anything for the world. Though go on, admit it, you find playgroups and crafts a bit boring too. We do all this stuff because we love them, because we care for their development and, whilst some of it is fun for all, through some of it we can find ourselves bored to tears. Sometimes we need to work out how to put the focus on fun.

Mindful Parenting - Putting the Focus on Fun
Last year, I started blogging again and found a rather surprising side effect. Half term was no longer a boring slog from one activity to another, interspersed with a few giggles. This time, there were more giggles and less boredom all round. Craft activities became fun because I wasn’t panicking about glue on the dining table, instead I was trying to find the best angle to capture their creations in a photo. I started thinking of new and different activities to spark their imaginations and mine and of course, half term isn’t complete without some baking.

 

I felt renewed interest and enthusiasm in their activities because I’d found something which made me fully take part in them and made them also fun for me. Now I’m not saying everyone should start a blog, everyone needs to find their own spark which focuses them on to the here and now. I’ve written about mindfulness for children before and I think we should try mindful parenting too. At least, as much as we can be, obviously we all have bad days.

 

For me blogging has helped change my focus, instead of just getting through the day, I want to capture the day. Life is a series of moments and once they’re over, they’re gone, existing only in a memory. Blogging has accidentally thrown me into mindful parenting. It spurs me on to capture the moment, write it down, photograph it, preserve it and in doing so, fully take part in it. I worried that blogging would be so time consuming, that it would take time away from our family life. However, I find that it makes me focus on my kids more, opening a window into their world.

 

 

The grown up Peter Pan in Hook had to go to Never Neverland to work out what life was all about. I just had to start this blog. Of course, you can’t make everything about parenting fun. Nothing will make changing nappies or dealing with piles of washing into something enjoyable. Whilst being fully present and having some mindful parenting in our lives is great, there’s just some moments we really wish we weren’t part of (I’m thinking of you, poonami explosions and public tantrums)!

 

ethannevelyn
Pink Pear Bear

9 Comments

  1. Yes!! I’m 2 weeks in to blogging and I’m finding the same has happened to me. The one thing that is getting a bit neglected though is the house so I must get back on that. Great post x

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    • KidGearUK

      Oh yes, same here with the housework! x

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  2. I love this! I think mindset is so important. We really can choose whether we are going to enjoy something and be fully present in the moment or whether we’re going to just “get through it.” Thanks for sharing!

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    • KidGearUK

      Definitely. Sometimes it’s hard to make that choice but, find something about it that can make it fun for you to, and it’s a whole lot easier. Thanks for stopping by.

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  3. Great post! I totally agree. I’ve been blogging for a year – I started it as I was getting lots of comments on Facebook about things we’d done together and where we’d been. I certainly plan more activities than I used to as I know it will also make a great blog post. Thanks so much for linking your #FabFridayPost

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    • KidGearUK

      Yes, I agree…gets me doing more activities with the kids. Thanks for hosting!

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  4. I’d say blogging has impacted a lot of areas of my life including parenting, all in a good way apart from the housework!! 🙂 #bigpinklink

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  5. Fabulous post! Blogging has not only given me a new lease of life, but the same as you, it’s made me enjoy capturing the moments, and finding humour in the monotony, much more than when the blog didn’t exist. I also think that as the children get older, and a little easier, I will enjoy activities with them a lot more-I find it so hard to engage them at the moment, because they are so little.
    I also loved the little blast into my childhood past, with the Hook clip-my goodness I adored that film as a child!! I also loved ‘the grown up Peter Pan in Hook had to go to Never Never Land to work out what life was all about. I just had to start this blog.’ Amazing! Thanks so much for sharing with us at #bigpinklink

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  6. Awww this is a lovely post. I feel very similar. Blogging has really made me focus on expressing my feelings about the children and made to pause to capture and think about the good moments too. #bigpinklink

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